I'm really starting to wish we didn't have friends in the Peoria area. Not because of my friends, but because of the inlaws. I'm tired of sleeping on a couch because Bryon's dad is too cheap to get an extra bed frame and mattress, but will buy steaks and shrimp for dinner. I'm tired of my husband just laying on couch, watching Avery get woke up 15 minutes after she falls asleep because mother in law wants to play. I stayed up with Avery until 2 this morning because she was so messed up. I also like the fact that every time I want to take Avery somewhere in Peoria with Bryon and no one else, I get a guilt trip. It's getting old.
I have been in such a crabby/pissy mood these past few weeks, and I know it's taking a toll on my marriage. I get frustrated because Bryon gets home, lays on the couch, and then Avery has a meltdown because he won't play with her. I'm tired of the fact that we haven't slept in the same bed in over 2 1/2 years, mainly because he refuses to get help for his snoring. I won't even continue along that path...
I need a vacation. Not the family vacation at the end of May (that I am really looking forward to), but a vacation with the girls. I don't know. I'm in a hard place right now, and I don't know how to get out of the rut.
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The reason a vacation won't work is because when you come home, everything will still be the same. You sound incredibly frustrated though and anyone would be in your shoes.
Sounds like you and Mr. Hubby are going to have a serious heart-to-heart about your feelings. Hopefully he cares enough to make an effort to work out some compromises with you. As for the in-laws, try to be as assertive as you can ("I know you want to play, but Avery needs a nap right now. She will be awake by __o'clock and you can play then") and perhaps you can take an air mattress with you. As for the snoring issue, maybe make the appointment for him and go with him to encourage/support him. Men are chickens when it comes to doctors. :) You can always spin it like "Honey, you know how much I love to cuddle with/sleep next to you and I miss having you in bed with me." Bed is an important place for a marriage.
Thanks for the advice. I don't feel our marriage is done for, but we've only been married (almost) 5 years and it's already like this? I've tried to take him to the doctor, but it's like a dog going into the vet. haha Thank you for helping us out; I will be sure and try your suggestions. :)
My husband is the same way with the doc. He has to practically be on his death bed for me to convince him to go! It's easy to fall into a rut but harder to get out of the rut. The bad thing is (at least what I usually see in my office) that the guy usually doesn't see (I mean REALLY see and understand) how much it is bothering his wife until it's too late. If you can "wake" him up to it now then that will make your marriage that much stronger.
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